Keep up a happy, healthy lifestyle by connecting with friends. This can look like a road trip to George or a friendcation across the country. Going on a trip with friends is exciting. Experiencing new sights and smells with the people you like the most: what could go wrong?
Think arguments when one person is an early-riser, while the other wakes up early at 12PM…Personality clashes, passive aggressive behaviour and the stress of trying to please everyone each day: it can be enough to swear off group travel for good!
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Here are 8 tips from travel and relationship experts online on how to plan a friendcation and still walk away as friends in the end.
- Talk honestly before agreeing to a vacation. One of the most important tools to use when planning a group vacation is communication. Before looking at attractions and accommodations, have an honest discussion to see what each person hopes out of the trip. License relationship expert, Stacy Kaiser says this is the time to also address each person’s vacation styles and needs. It is also the time to really consider your travel buddies.
- Get all the money talk out in the open. Talking about money can be scary – but it can also be quite liberating, explains women’s friendship coach, Danielle Bayard Jackson. Having a realistic idea of everyone’s budget will help set expectations for the trip. Do this beforehand, talking about it on the spot can be stressful and make a friend feel like they’re compromising says Bayard Jackson.
- Build a loose itinerary. Newsflash: you don’t have to do everything together. Jack Ezon, founder of the luxury travel advisory firm Embark, says that including provate time is key to a successful group trip. Be open to the group splitting up, advises travel expert Ravi Roth. Remember some people might be on this trip to relax, others to find adventures, while others just want to take pictures for social media.
- Schedule the important things. When it is time to regroup for an activity or a group supper, be sure to book those in advance to get the best price advises Roberta Long-Kelleher, a travel consultant. This can also help you get ahead of any hiccups, and give you time to move around difficulties should they arise. Kaiser suggests mapping out all your attractions and scheduling time for each place and activity.
- Use your apps. Avoid lengthy messages or email threads by using apps made for travelling. They often come with tools to organise an itinerary, store everyone’s important information and even split expenses. This can be especially helpful when dealing with many different costs and lots of people.
- Address the ‘little things’ rather than letting them build up. No it is not you picking a fight – you are doing this for the sake of your frienship, the trip, and to get on the same page assures Bayard Jackson. If you notice you have not let that ‘small’ thing go, bring it up calmly. That irritation, warns Bayard jackson, can manifest in other ways.
- Communicate. And communicate some more. Things are less likely to go wrong if everyone is on the same page beforehand advises Roth. Talk to your group prior to departure to discuss the itinerary, supper reservations and splitting expenses and other logistics. Bayard Jackson suggests doing this at a pre-trip planning party. This way your group can have fun while talking logistics.
- It’s all about the bigger picture. Preparation can go a long way to a successful getaway! But allow yourself to go with the flow. try not to be tied to a schedule. You might miss out on the moment or a new adventure says Kaiser. And is that not the reason for this trip? Making new amazing memories with friends?
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Besides all the drama of picking rooms, catching flights or dealing with travel hiccups: travelling with a friend, or your friend group, is not all bad. You get to see how they deal with stress. It helps you all understand and appreciate the friendship you have.